What brought you far – and you also exhausted.
High demand is your strength. He brought you to where you are today. But at some point, what was tool becomes the driver — and pushes you beyond what is healthy. Anyone who recognizes this is no less professional. He becomes a more sovereign.
Where strength becomes a trap.
The healthy high demand serves you – you can lower it if necessary, take a break, leave a “good enough” standing. Compulsive perfectionism does not. He is always there, always demanding, always one step ahead. Even what has succeeded well will be only a short moment before the next “but” comes.
In the long run, this tugs substance and sleep. The thoughts continue to circle in the evening, at the weekend rest is hard, the body remains in tension. What counts as strength becomes the brake – and most do not notice it, because they do not know it otherwise. Looking right here is not weakness. It's wisdom.
This is not a test. Who recognizes several sentences, gains a lot, if he looks at his own claim once in peace and with professional support.
Typical Questions and Observations
These indications are not self-diagnosis. They help to arrange the personal concern for a specialist discussion.
- You cannot look forward to any success long before the next claim comes.
- In the evening, your thoughts continue to turn – on the day’s work, on what could be even better.
- You do not endure “good enough” — yours or that of others.
- You are exhausted, but do not give in because it is not enough.
- Others say you are too hard on yourself – and you feel that you are right.
- You want to remain effective, but not in this way.
Why people who wear a lot?
Those who carry much have often learned high standards as virtues—from parents, in education, in life. He was rewarded because he worked. And it worked because it brought the person forward. Until at some point he assumes another role: from tool to driver, from means to end in itself.
: Those who are used to solving everything themselves see no reason for help in compulsive perfectionism – they are one of them. This is where the blind spot lies. If you look at what really drives your own claim, you gain clarity and energy back, which was lost in inner pressure for years.
Sovereignty instead of compulsion.
At re:NOW, we work on perfectionism not as a character flaw, but as a load pattern. During the specialist and coaching-accompanied stay, you will recognize where your inner pressure comes from, which function it fulfils and how the claim can be separated from coercion. It’s not about giving up your standards or doing less. It is about being sovereign instead of being driven – in the profession as well as in private.
This usually results in a noticeable relief – and often even a better effect on the outside. Energy that does not flow into internal pressure flows into the thing. Accompanied by doctors and coaches who know these patterns from their own point of view.
In a place where standards can be standards without becoming tyrants: the Kloster Beuerberg on Lake Starnberg.
Good to
know.
Isn't perfectionism a strength?
To one point, yes. High standards have often brought successful people exactly where they are today. Problematically, if he no longer allows the break, he immediately devalues any success and the thoughts do not come to rest. Then the claim is no longer the tool, but the human being his tool – and no system can withstand this permanently.
Will I become less powerful when I work on it?
No, on the contrary. Those who change from compulsive perfectionism into sovereign claims often become even more powerful – because energy is no longer lost in internal pressure, but flows into the thing. It is not a question of lowering standards, but of leading them sovereignly instead of being led by them.
How do I know it's a problem?
To exhaustion that does not give way. Sleep cut up by thoughts. The inability to leave a good result without turning it further. The feeling of never being good enough — no matter what you’ve accomplished. Anyone who realizes this has the most important prerequisite to change something.
What do we do at re:NOW?
We take perfectionism seriously as a pattern of stress, not as a personality defect. In specialist and coaching-accompanied conversations, in stress regulation and targeted physical work, you learn to recognize the lever at which the internal pressure arises – and to flip it, without giving up your strength.